Sunday, April 13, 2014

30 Days of Chilling Out

We've all seen the articles that litter Facebook and Pinterest, 30 days to a better this, 30 days to lower that. Sometimes we need to take a step back and rest! Rest is talked about (I don't know the #, but a lot!) of times in the Bible. It is even linked to our very salvation (see Hebrews 4, Proverbs 10:22, & Romans 4:5).

I have struggled with adrenal fatigue since high school and have come a long way in learning how to treat it, but it has hit again recently, probably just from raising 2 toddler boys. The biggest symptom for me lately is over-reacting to stress. Things that most people can take in stride just really put me over the top as far as stress goes. That rational part of my brain (which, thank God, still works) is saying, "Really? That is going to bother you right now?" but whatever other part of my brain that has spawned just takes over. This is a big clue that adrenals are an issue. It seems that it would be the opposite, and that your body would just be too tired to care about anything, but I have not the time or energy to give a scientific explanation for it right now, OK? :) 

So when I discovered this guy and his method of re-booting metabolism (and all hormones along with it), I decided to give it a try. Each of us has different stressors that set us off, so I evaluated what mine were and made some "rules" for myself, although they don't really seem like rules.

  • Eat a big breakfast very soon after getting up- this starts the metabolism and turns off your stress hormones that carry you through the night.
  • Eat whenever I'm hungry. (I had actually stopped getting normal hunger cues and would go straight to low blood sugar symptoms right out of nowhere, so I had to start planning my meals ahead of time so I'd be ready before the crash (the crash stresses the adrenals!)
  • ...without worrying too much about WHAT I'm eating. Eat what I want. (This was interesting, because when I pay attention to what I really want, I realize a lot of it is healthy. I don't feel deprived, because I can have the frozen pizza if I really want it, but do I? Or do I want a big chicken salad with veggies, nuts, cheese, and avocado? When you don't feel deprived, you're free to make better choices.)
    (for more on what to eat, see the link above)
  • Wean off of coffee. (OK, I take that back! This one DID seem like a rule, a very difficult one! I only have one cup a day, but it makes me feel bad. I get shaky and jittery and just feel ug. I was still chasing that high I used to get from it when I was more healthy. That reaction is another sign of adrenal fatigue, by the way.)
  •  When my 2 YO is whining (big stressor for me!), STOP what I'm doing and listen and play with him or do whatever he needs. 
  • No internet after dinner. (I need this time to wind down, and the internet winds me UP.)
  • No debating. (only for 30 days, not forever, bwahahaha!)
  • No talk radio. (Again, a personal stressor for me. For people who don't ever listen to it, I would SUGGEST it, ;) )
  •  Nothing suspenseful on TV.
  • Take some time each day to meditate and kind of turn my mind off, maybe a power-nap.
  • Rest one day per week. (Turns out, the best day for me right now is Sunday, duh! :) But I usually rest a little on Sat, and little on Sun, and a little the day the boys go to their church program. My goal is to work harder on Saturdays so I can have one day to chill!)
  • Get lots of sleep at night. 
I'm doing this for the month of April.

Monday, January 27, 2014

Christians, Stop Deominzing Nuetral Words, Pt 1- Psychology



I've noticed a trend among church-goers. We seem to misunderstand or forget the original meanings of words when liberals or secularists hijack them and change the meaning.

Psychology is one of those. I cringe when I hear people say, "I don't believe in psychology. I believe in turning to God." Really? You don't believe in: 

psy·chol·o·gy

noun \-jē\
: the science or study of the mind and behavior
: the way a person or group thinks

? God created psychology. Just like everything in life, it's His; it doesn't belong to anyone who may have hijacked that term. God created our minds and sets up the various things that may influence our behavior. Furthermore, I believe He wants us to study these things and figure out why they work the way they do. If by saying that, you mean you don't agree with modern pop psychology that wants to blame the past (the mother, haha) for everything and treat everything with behavior modification and/or drugs, then I would have to agree with you, but let's use the right terminology. 

This doesn't mean that everything written in a modern psychology textbook is wrong or that seeing a psychologist is never going to be helpful, even if they use some modern techniques. The human brain and behavior are SO complex. I'm a firm believer that our physical, mental/emotional, and spiritual lives are interlinked. 

I, for example, struggle with anxiety. My father and his mother both had it, so perhaps it's inherited. Then again, it got worse after 2 different traumatic accidents I had in which I was injured, so maybe it's caused by circumstances in life. It got WAY worse on occasions when I was pregnant or post-partum, so then maybe it's just all hormones & body chemistry? Prayer, worship, and staying close to Christ helps to calm me down, and I firmly believe demonic attack is associated with many mental disorders, so that's something to think about as well. The lie is that every mental disorder or symptom is caused by only ONE of these things. The truth is that each is very multi-faceted. 

There is a popular Christian counseling method called "Biblical Counseling." I was coached on this method by a friend who is trained in it, and I think it's a great tool. The basic premise is that we sin, and in our guilt we run from God instead of turning TO him for forgiveness. This unresolved guilt causes a range of psychological symptoms. The idea is that when we return to fellowship with God through confession, our issues will be resolved. I like its simplicity, and think it gives some great tools. But what they are studying and treating is psychology. The weakness would be if the counselor ignores the health, circumstantial, and even demonic contributions to the symptoms.

If you think you're dealing with demonic attack, this is a great resource.
If you're interested in learning more about conflict, why it happens, and how to handle it, this is an excellent book.
Here is another great one on communication styles and why we misunderstand each other. 
These are both well worth the read.
Don't be afraid to study psychology; just be careful your source follows God's ideas for us, not just man's.

 

Saturday, January 25, 2014

Skipper at 2!

http://thewaythingsshouldbechildcare.blogspot.com/2014/01/skipper-at-2.html
click on pic...

Kruiser at 4!

http://thewaythingsshouldbechildcare.blogspot.com/2014/01/k-at-4.html
Click on pic above....

Friday, January 24, 2014

New Blog Nick Names

I don't like using our real names on the blog since it's a public blog. I decided K and G-man need some official blog names! :) 

Introducing, Kruiser...


 And Skipper...

 Some First Day of School Pics...


And DH will be "Super Dad"!

Thursday, January 23, 2014

Vaccines, Part 2- Dangers

The vaccine debate is getting pretty crazy. My advice: stop debating and start researching. That's what I did shortly after my first was born, and I am finally gathering enough info to feel comfortable sharing some of it with you. This is a complex issue which each family needs to look into for themselves. Anyway, I hope this helps someone make a more informed decision. Check out Part 1 here.

1. If you're concerned about abortion, you should be informed as to which vaccines
are made using tissue from aborted children. These vaccines do not contain the tissue IN them, but the ingredients are cultured in fetal tissue. For some, you can ask for an alternative brand, but some have no alternative. This may interest anyone who's pro-life.


http://www.christianpatriot.com/vaccines.htm 

2. This is the government's table of possible, although rare, serious reactions with a timeline that they would happen in after vaccinations. This is what they go by when deciding whether to compensate for a vaccine injury, but it gives a blunt view of what can occur.

And here are the actual reported symptoms from real people for each year.

3.  Hepatitis B:

Risks outweigh the benefits of Hepatitis B vaccine at birth.

Also, autoimmune disorders linked to Heb B vaccine.

(NOTE: Mothers who have Hepatitis B should most likely have their babies vaccinated, as the disease can be transferred to the baby at birth.)

4. Aluminum in vaccines linked to auto-immune issues. 

5. The chicken pox vaccine has 2 dangers. One is that older people who have already had it need to be exposed to it every so often to boost their immunity to shingles. This doesn't happen nearly as much because children aren't getting it anymore, so the incidence of shingles is rising among older people.  The second is that it might shift the incidence of disease to adults (we don't yet know how long this vaccine lasts), where the disease is much more dangerous and more deadly.   LINK

6.  HPV vaccine: 


Can cause infertility, permanent neurological damage, and even death in many young people. As of August 13, 2012, VAERS has received 119 reports of death following HPV vaccination, as well as:

894 reports of disability
517 life-threatening adverse events
9,889 emergency room visits
2,781 hospitalizations

(I can get the source on this is you need it. I forgot to copy it while doing my research.)

7. MMR Dangers Explained (and the "debunked" study that linked it to autism.)

8. And... Unvaccinated Children 500 times Healthier (if you believe this study)

 





Friday, January 10, 2014